After reading an article about what it means to date a woman without a father, I got extremely angry. I was angry because everything in the article was so true. Then I got even more upset when I realized what if your mother, in some ways, failed you, too,  whether it was intentional or not. Does this mean you are just all screwed up?

People focus on just one parent failing, but what happens when they both create a void? How hard is dating and making friends for those people, and by those people, I do mean me! The phrase “it’s gonna take a special person” comes to mind. I’ve finally surrounded myself with “special people” or friends who get me.  However, now I’m waiting on that “special person” who gets me too!

I wish I could write a letter to my father and actually see his reaction to all I have to say. However, even the letter won’t take away all that he gave. I say all that he gave because now that I, myself, am a parent, I further understand that everything you don’t give is giving something too. Most times, it’s all that you don’t give that you’re giving the most.

As far as the voids my mother created, let’s just say sometimes people really are “giving you the best that they’ve got.”