While watching an episode of one of my favorite shows, “The Haves and the Have Nots,” in one of the scenes, a character, “David,” made a compelling statement. After David refused to go through with an affair, the woman requested that David at least hold her because she was so lonely; I, being single, understood. David, of course, not only tells her no but, at the lady’s request, he explained.

In short, he tells her the difference between what goes on in a man’s mind while holding a woman and what goes on in a woman’s mind while being held. David explains that he,  himself, while holding her, can be aroused by her and think about his wife as well as other things, all at the same time, and this” holding” means nothing at all. On the other hand, for the woman, she will be thinking that they are getting closer and how much this moment means to her. After this scene, I must say I was blown away.

I was taken aback because it finally occurred to a man that a woman is human. Now, before anyone gets offended, this is not going to be a male-bashing article. I’m just saying that just like there are men who grow up without fathers to teach them how to be a man, or mothers to show them how to treat a lady. This very same thing happens to women, too. Some women really don’t know any better, and it was clear in the character’s face that she had never heard or experienced such a thing before.

I appreciated this scene so much because in that moment, David could have taken advantage of her. He could have held her like she asked and not explained a thing.  However,  he offered more than what she thought she wanted. Instead,  he gave her what she needed.

Men, how many times has this situation occurred, whether you actually did have intercourse or just lay with a woman who didn’t mean a thing? Ladies, how many times have we allowed this to happen and request the same thing as the character? I’m writing this to encourage us all to consider the person next to you, or under you, for that matter, as a human being.

Let’s not just consider our bodies but also our hearts and our minds, too. Whether that person listens and takes it in is on them. You may feel it’s not the time for lessons in life and love to be learned; however, where would we be if we all felt that way, all the time? Who would teach us, and who would learn anything? So consider, before you call that lady a hoe: it may be deeper than that, and she just might not know any better.